If I had to do it all over again there isn't a whole lot that I'd change. Some of the most important things that I would recommend to future couples would be this:
-Make what you can because there's a lot of money to be saved here!
-Don't stress about the food too much. We ended up having a friend cook the meal for our reception & stuck to a serve yourself style. This way people who wanted to mingle with old or new friends didn't feel pressured to sit down or even eat if they weren't in the mood.
-Find an officiate you share a personal connection with! I'm so glad we went with a friend that we both respect, value, & look up to. The words he used were not what one would commonly hear during a ceremony; however, they were personal, honest, & will resonate with Josh & I for years to come.
-Write your own vows! There's just something so special about this part. I've watched our wedding video several times now and I'm amazed at the amount of love I can hear in our voices as we speak to one another. We were apprehensive about this at first, but I'm grateful we did so in retrospect.
While I can say that I'm still insanely happy about the endeavor there are a few things I'd do differently:
-Don't send everything out too early! It's so exciting & you've got all the invitations made, sealed, & ready to go but wait. We had a destination wedding that was tricky to travel to thus we sent ours out just a bit early. Most people waited until about 2 months before to book their travel anyways so that would have been plenty of time. If there's someone you think needs more time feel free to give them a ring a bit earlier. That's what the save the dates are for after all.
-Be understanding. Although you've done your very best to accommodate everyone's schedules just know that some will have prior engagements, other personal things come up, & might just flat out forget. It happens...I'm sure we are all guilty of this at times so don't be too hard on those that do.
-In hindsight, I'd also say over-organization on my part led to a few important items getting overlooked. I'd recommend lists- Make a list of must do's, items important to you both, & one of things that you would like to get but won't be too discouraged if they fall through.
Now, with all of that said I'd like to share with you a few snapshots I have from our special day. We could not have asked for a better photographer, Kara Mercer. She is crazy talented thus super busy. We expect to get our photos back in a couple of months. These are just a few of the ones dear friends & family snapped. (I'm sure the blog with flood with others once we see what the talented lady comes up with!)